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V-cards!

V-cards!

Follow We love to talk about the experienced man de-flowering a young, innocent woman. But what about when the tables are turned and it’s an experienced woman de-flowering a young, innocent man? Turns out it’s not all that uncommon! And here’s what the ladies had to say about it… College students in a human sexuality class of 350 students were asked to submit stories of an experienced female having sexual intercourse...

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When NOT to use a couple-y profile pic

When NOT to use a couple-y profile pic

Follow I got into a debate a little while ago with someone regarding whether or not using a couple profile photo (aka dyadic photo) on a singles dating site is a good idea.   My immediate position – and one that I firmly hold onto – is that couple profile pictures should.not.be.used. Here’s why:   1. It’s confusing as fuck. Who is this person? If it’s an opposite sex person in your photo on a hetero dating...

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Vibrating 101

Vibrating 101

Follow What is the story with vibrators? Did the smartest woman alive create them? Probably. Whether or not that is reflected in the history is another story. So for some specific history 101, check out this article which gives a nice overview of vibrators and their historical development. Here are a couple of pics of these original vibrators to give you a sense of what they looked like. One word: scary. Second word: scary. At least...

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that’s disgusting = that’s hot

that’s disgusting = that’s hot

Follow What’s the most ideal temperature to have sex in? Think about that temperature. We’ll come back to that…   But let’s talk about sex now. It’s weird, right? It’s actually really weird. Like….it’s kinda disgusting. Think about it.   You get in some state of undress. Most likely naked.  You thrust. You rub bodies against other naked bodies. You make these guttural animal noises…that in any other context...

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Is “banana” your safe word?

Is “banana” your safe word?

Follow My 2 cents: banana isn’t a good safe word. Too many syllables! Pick a shorter one. Here’s the link to the convo on LiVE 885FM regarding BDSM (6 min). What’s the best/worst safe words? Tweet them to me! @JocelynWentland ...

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The long and short of “it”

The long and short of “it”

Follow How often? How many times do you do it? What’s the average? You know what? Fuck the frequency. Let’s talk about duration. Because sex can be frequent. Doesn’t mean it’s good. So let’s talk about duration of sexual encounters. And let’s start talking to people about what is going on and what (if anything) leads to orgasm (if that’s your thang. And orgasm might not be your thang. And that’s fine. For lots of people...

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Not your typical “boudoir”

Not your typical “boudoir”

Follow Full circle, baby.   I entered grad school fresh off a boudoir shoot. I was doing a project where I was interviewing photographers who do erotic photography. One of the photographers said to me after our project interview: “If you are wondering how these shoots work, you should really just do one so you can experience it for yourself.”   So that’s what I did.   And I got some nice black and whites that are...

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99.9% of men watch porn. Right?

99.9% of men watch porn. Right?

Follow So are guys really watching more porn today? Let’s discuss. With research (from the General Social Survey). And by research, I mean 14,193 American men (aged 18-89yrs; average age 45yrs). They’ll do for this study (which was face-to-face interviews, btw. This is an important point so remember this. We’re gonna come back to it later). So they measure men every year. Roughly 400-600 different ones. And they do it for 35ish...

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How does your shirt smell?

How does your shirt smell?

Follow If you have taken a class with me, you know that I love to talk evolutionary psych everything and anything. And some of my favourite studies to talk about include the smelly t-shirt studies. Obv I like this stuff because I really like partners who smell good. I like all people who smell good actually. I’ve def made partners of mine in the past ramp up their cologne use to accommodate my scent preferences because it’s simply...

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“Get off your phone”

“Get off your phone”

Follow Think your relationship isn’t affected by technology? Think again, rookie. Because it is. And quite a lot, actually. So let me tell you about two research studies. First up….a study of 138 couples between the age of 18-25yrs – who, believe it or not, are not university students! And we (well not me, the proverbial “we”) ask them how often they use cell phones and how often they text, email, instant message,...

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Drunk dialing/texting

Drunk dialing/texting

Follow So drunk dialing. That’s so oldskool. Let’s talk about drunk texting – the newer, cooler cousin of drunk dialling. Basically cuz I’m researching casual sex relationships, I’m interested in all of the ins and outs of these relationships. What is cool is that there are some rules about when you are allowed to call your booty call. Listen up! 1. If you are too drunk to compose a legible text message,...

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April Fools, sucka

Follow If you heard me on the radio today and had questions about anything I said, don’t. April Fool’s. Porn does not ruin relationships. Women are not sluts for asking men out. And lesbians are potentially having way more (better) sex than a lot of other couples. Good day to you!   ...

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Sex’ing the ex

Sex’ing the ex

Follow Sex with the ex can be a slippery slope. I’ll share some research on that here in a minute but I wonder how many couples have sex as part of the actual break-up convo? You know…’the last chance to get in before the gettin’ is really over’ sex. It’s like make-up sex. On drugs. And this is not to be confused with eraser dick. That’s a real different cat(aka sex) following the dissolution of a romantic...

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(74) awesome sex education Qs

(74) awesome sex education Qs

Follow *Re-post* If you were approximately 14 years old taking a week-long sexuality and relationships course, what would you ask your sex researcher ‘professor’? Here’s a little sampling of the questions I was busy answering last week… 1. Is breast size/penis size hereditary? 2. Are there certain foods you can eat to make your breasts or penis larger? 3. Do certain types of food (e.g., Pineapple) make guys’...

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Is your name Bart Simpson? # of sex partners?

Is your name Bart Simpson? # of sex partners?

Follow So if someone asks if your name is Bart Simpson, your spidey senses should start tingling. Because these are the types of questions that should tell you that you are participating in some bad ass deception research! I’ve blogged about number of sex partners previously here and here. And I mentioned this study which is probably my favourite research study! If not, it’s Top 3 for sure! Probably because it includes...

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