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Drunk dialing/texting

Drunk dialing/texting

Share this So drunk dialing. That’s so oldskool. Let’s talk about drunk texting – the newer, cooler cousin of drunk dialling. Basically cuz I’m researching casual sex relationships, I’m interested in all of the ins and outs of these relationships. What is cool is that there are some rules about when you are allowed to call your booty call. Listen up! 1. If you are too drunk to compose a legible text...

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April Fools, sucka

Share this If you heard me on the radio today and had questions about anything I said, don’t. April Fool’s. Porn does not ruin relationships. Women are not sluts for asking men out. And lesbians are potentially having way more (better) sex than a lot of other couples. Good day to you!   Share...

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Sex’ing the ex

Sex’ing the ex

Share this Sex with the ex can be a slippery slope. I’ll share some research on that here in a minute but I wonder how many couples have sex as part of the actual break-up convo? You know…’the last chance to get in before the gettin’ is really over’ sex. It’s like make-up sex. On drugs. And this is not to be confused with eraser dick. That’s a real different cat(aka sex) following the dissolution of a romantic...

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(74) awesome sex education Qs

(74) awesome sex education Qs

Share this *Re-post* If you were approximately 14 years old taking a week-long sexuality and relationships course, what would you ask your sex researcher ‘professor’? Here’s a little sampling of the questions I was busy answering last week… 1. Is breast size/penis size hereditary? 2. Are there certain foods you can eat to make your breasts or penis larger? 3. Do certain types of food (e.g., Pineapple) make...

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Is your name Bart Simpson? # of sex partners?

Is your name Bart Simpson? # of sex partners?

Share this So if someone asks if your name is Bart Simpson, your spidey senses should start tingling. Because these are the types of questions that should tell you that you are participating in some bad ass deception research! I’ve blogged about number of sex partners previously here and here. And I mentioned this study which is probably my favourite research study! If not, it’s Top 3 for sure! Probably because it includes...

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Dropping the L-bomb (1st)

Dropping the L-bomb (1st)

Share this So late last year, I blogged about love. The lovers. And basically the study I discussed had found that men and women roughly fall in love at equal times (based on a study of 300ish people). In that study men reported having fallen in love at first sight (more than women) but reported that they were less likely to report having dated their loves.FYI – some researchers have found that men fall in love faster in an effort...

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What would you buy in a mate?

What would you buy in a mate?

Share this So basically researchers are on to the fact that people are kind of full of bullshit when they are asked to tell researchers what are the most important characteristics needed in a partner. Annnnd…the bullshit seems to stay pretty consistent regardless if we are talking about hypothetical short-term partners or hypothetical long-term partners. So these researchers asked people to design their mates by giving them a...

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Slap (chop) of relationship reality

Slap (chop) of relationship reality

Share this This semester marks the end of my official re-entry back into life as a professor. This is basically a perfect summary of what it was like. But as I head into the holiday season, here are my personal 2013 professor lessons learned: a) You can get people jazzed about learning when you actually give a shit about what you’re teaching. And these two things are absolutely intertwined. b) My students listened to me (at least)...

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For the lovers…

For the lovers…

Share this So this semester I had to give not one, but two, lectures on love. Like all good procrastinators, I avoided it as long as I could and then was left with no option but to sink my teeth into it. And it was actually pretty cool once I got into it. Turns out…..we don’t know that much about love. Given the massive body of literature on relationships, you’d think we’d have tackled this and laid it to bed long...

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Date or mate?

Date or mate?

Share this Does what you look for in a spouse or date differ? What about in a same-sex friend versus a cross-sex friend? This results from this study suggest, yes! But how do we know this? 700 students (59% women, 41% men) were asked about their personal preferences for one of the following: Spouse Dating partner Casual sex partner Same-sex friend Opposite-sex friend Then, participants were asked to rank their preferences of the...

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#FBO

#FBO

Share this I think this may be my favourite question to ask people when I give a talk or lecture…What’s more intimate?: Say I love you or give someone your Facebook password? Becaaaaaause there are such major age differences to answering this question! If you are 14, sharing your Facebook password (or email password or phone password) has become a relationship rite of passage. Obviously you do this before saying I love you. If you...

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Relationship TSN Turning Points 2

Relationship TSN Turning Points 2

Share this Bam! Another TSN Turning Point. But this one is not that great of a TSN Turning Point because shit really hits the fan here… So things used to be great, but you’re having doubts. Enter the relationship dissolution phases. Let me walk you through the model… Individualization (people talk about “me” instead of “we”, people resent being in a relationship and having to compromise for someone...

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Relationship TSN Turning Points 1

Relationship TSN Turning Points 1

Share this According to relationship research, there are two big types of turning points for relationships: Reflective turning points – meeting partner’s family for the first time à sparks the discussion “Hey, what’s going on with us?” Causal turning points – partner cheats on you and it sparks a different kind of discussion “Hey, we need to talk” These are what I like to call a TSN Turning Point According to...

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One of these things is (not) like the other

One of these things is (not) like the other

Share this Speed dating research is a bit of a hot topic in the relationship research literature these days. Why you ask? Well its kind-of a perfect blend of mimicking real-world situations where we make quick judgments potential dating partners. Researchers can re-create these situations and run multiple speed dating events. And bonus if you are a participant who leaves a research study with 8 phone numbers. Not bad, right? What do we...

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Great first dates

Great first dates

Share this So what does a great first date look like? Well you probably shouldn’t hate the person, that’s a good place to start. You shouldn’t dread spending 2 hours with this person. You probably shouldn’t be thinking of all the other things that you were rather be doing. But heck, if you don’t want the date to end, then by golly, I think you might just be having a great date! When I lecture about first dates, I love to ask...

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