content top

Pee. Not pee.

Pee. Not pee.

Follow So the story related to this study hit the media a couple of weeks ago. It was technically released on Dec 24th but I guess people were less interested in the controversies related to female ejaculation while they were busy sipping egg nog and being merry with kith and kin. And here’s where I’m struggling with this paper (and by no means am I an expert in the female squirting/ejaculation) but the Journal of Sexual Medicine is...

Read More

Not me. I wouldn’t cheat.

Not me. I wouldn’t cheat.

Follow Pluralistic ignorance is this fun little term us psychology people love to use. It generally refers to people believing that others are engaging in a behaviour, while you are not. So for hooking up…one might think all of their friends are hooking up with different people every weekend while simultaneously feeling inadequate for not hooking up themselves. So for cheating, this is a belief that cheating is very common and...

Read More

Cuddle up!

Cuddle up!

Follow We know that foreplay is important? But what about post-play? You know….the stuff that comes after sex?   [Personally, I like the term post-coital physical contact but I’ll use the term these researchers (one of my SRBFFs!) used in their study – post-sex affectionate behaviours]   So….would you cuddle just a little longer if you knew it would have a benefit to your relationship?   Maybe let...

Read More

Just friends?

Just friends?

Follow I know. It’s like the oldest debate in the book. But there’s a reason why it’s the oldest debate in the book. BECAUSE WE DON’T KNOW THE GD ANSWER! So humour me, while I bring it up just one more time… Can men and women be just friends?   Well, I don’t care so much about the answer to that question – but if the 750+ students who have been in my classes over the past year have told me – its that…well...

Read More

What (sexual) freedom means to me

What (sexual) freedom means to me

Follow Today I’m at home watching the Remembrance Day ceremonies. Having lived in Ottawa for a few years, I’ve been down at the National War Memorial a number of times but opted to watch it on TV so I can see what’s going on and hear (mostly because I always end up in such a crappy place and can’t see or hear anything).   I’m from BC. And in BC, Remembrance Day is a provincial statutory holiday. I’ve never understood...

Read More

Skype me later, k?

Skype me later, k?

Follow I’m gonna tell you about this qualitative study of 14 people (speaking of judgey-ness, it’s qual; relax at the low numbers) who were interviewed about their use of video chat in long-distance relationships (LDRs, btw). And that was the only requirement to be in the study: report that using video chat was the primary manner in which you maintained contact with your LDR partner.     Now what I do like about this study...

Read More

You went where with whom?

You went where with whom?

Follow I’ve built a lot of my career based on tearing down gender differences. I literally got into this business because of a third year undergrad paper I wrote examining gender differences in when sex first happens in a new relationship. This led me to do my honours thesis on women’s reasons for engaging in casual sex (they do it for the same reasons that men do, fyi and as if that isn’t one of the most “duh” eliciting...

Read More

Animal Penises (Peni?)

Animal Penises (Peni?)

Follow So in the spirit of thanksgiving and the hype around turkeys, I thought we would stray from our typical turkey dump topic (you can re-read it later…you know, la rupture de le dindon) and instead – talk about animal penises. Which are obviously one of the most fascinating things to research.   And clearly the funnest thing to talk about. Anyone who says they don’t want to talk about animal penises are...

Read More

You’re going where?

You’re going where?

Follow I love love love what I did my PhD in (casual sex, baby) but there are two topics that I would consider as alternates if I had to do it again: jealousy in relationships and how we count sex partners!   Combine the jealousy with my love for all that is sexy evolutionary research and voila – here we go.     So basically I just cannot ignore the massive contribution that our ancestral mating behaviours have on our...

Read More

Polywha?

Polywha?

Follow Polyamory. It’s a “lifestyle in which a person or people pursue simultaneous intimate – romantic and/or sexual – relationships with the explicit consent from all partners.” What’s very interesting from a research perspective (or maybe I just think these things are cool) is that there are some researchers that believe that polyamory should be considered a stand-alone orientation (not just a...

Read More

V-cards!

V-cards!

Follow We love to talk about the experienced man de-flowering a young, innocent woman. But what about when the tables are turned and it’s an experienced woman de-flowering a young, innocent man? Turns out it’s not all that uncommon! And here’s what the ladies had to say about it… College students in a human sexuality class of 350 students were asked to submit stories of an experienced female having sexual intercourse...

Read More

When NOT to use a couple-y profile pic

When NOT to use a couple-y profile pic

Follow I got into a debate a little while ago with someone regarding whether or not using a couple profile photo (aka dyadic photo) on a singles dating site is a good idea.   My immediate position – and one that I firmly hold onto – is that couple profile pictures should.not.be.used. Here’s why:   1. It’s confusing as fuck. Who is this person? If it’s an opposite sex person in your photo on a hetero dating...

Read More

Vibrating 101

Vibrating 101

Follow What is the story with vibrators? Did the smartest woman alive create them? Probably. Whether or not that is reflected in the history is another story. So for some specific history 101, check out this article which gives a nice overview of vibrators and their historical development. Here are a couple of pics of these original vibrators to give you a sense of what they looked like. One word: scary. Second word: scary. At least...

Read More

that’s disgusting = that’s hot

that’s disgusting = that’s hot

Follow What’s the most ideal temperature to have sex in? Think about that temperature. We’ll come back to that…   But let’s talk about sex now. It’s weird, right? It’s actually really weird. Like….it’s kinda disgusting. Think about it.   You get in some state of undress. Most likely naked.  You thrust. You rub bodies against other naked bodies. You make these guttural animal noises…that in any other context...

Read More

Is “banana” your safe word?

Is “banana” your safe word?

Follow My 2 cents: banana isn’t a good safe word. Too many syllables! Pick a shorter one. Here’s the link to the convo on LiVE 885FM regarding BDSM (6 min). What’s the best/worst safe words? Tweet them to me! @JocelynWentland ...

Read More
content top